This is the eulogy spoken by Benji Potter in Raymond's stone setting on Sunday the 6th October 2013 and ending with a lovely poem done by her 16 years old daughter Amy Hannah. Friends, family and colleagues of Raymond I would first like to welcome you all to this stone setting and memoria on behalf of Karena and Manny Selman, Nicole, Julia, Henrietta, Amy and Charlotte. Today marks nearly a year since my uncle was so vey suddenly taken away from us and I think it would be entirely fitting for me to sahre once again some of the words about the man he was. Firstly I would like to start with a poem which Julia has asked me to read. The poem is entitled If tears could build a stairway. If tears could build a stairway And memories are lane We would walk right up to Heaven And bring you back again No farewell words wer spoken No time ti say goodbye You were gone before we knew it And only God knows why Our hearts still aches in sadness And secret testill flow What it meant to lose you No one can ever know But now we know you want us To mourn for you no more To remember all the happy times Life still has much in store Since you’ll never be forgotten We pledge to you today A hollowed place within our hearts Is where you’ll always stay In the words of Julia, Ray was the most wonderful, perfect husband-her soul mate. He was the best father to his 3 children, a totally dedicated family man. Julia still finds it difficult to accept that he is no longer with us, when they have so much to look forward to in the future. Even though we have lost Ray, we must look to the future, knowing that he will continue to leave an indelible imprint on our memories. we will find comfort in knowing that our lives have been enriched by having had his love. Ever the dedicated brother to Nicole, she is also keen to remind us that he has always there for her and her boys. Nothing was too much trouble and they would speak regularly, even with their busy schedules. A year on Nicole is able to remember all the funny moments they shared together laughing at life's challenges. He was a calming man who could make you feel better about any situation and his lating imprint on all of us will never fade. From Manny and Karena thay share. " Our thoughts today on our very special son Raymond who was taken from us so suddenly nearly a year ago now.He meant so much to us and to such a lot of different people who had the pleasure of knowing him in the very short time he was with us all. Firstly, we would like to say as his parents how proud we always were of him. The way he found time to be an understanding son and a very caring person whoever he came into contact with. and to help them in whichever way he could. we would like to say how much we sincerely appreciated all our dear family and friends who have supported us with great understanding and comfort throughout this very difficult time for us all. May the Almighty bless us all and let there be peace on earth as in Heaven. Shalom And finally to his girls the most honourable father any child could wish for and I will finish this eulogy with a poem written by his daughter Amy. Dear Daddy One year gone What does that mean One year gone Much faster that it would seem I hope that you would see me I pray that you still can Now that I am older and wiser Now that i understand Understand different views, points and perspectives Understand what I didn’t say when I should of Undestand that times get lost in the moment takes away any meaning of “would of” and “could of” In this year I’ve encountered that worst traits of life How to hold on to every ounce of every memory trying ti remember everyday Before time catches you up Incase it fades away But Daddy I know No time of that we spent is time that I regret Those moments that once meant nothing Are the moments whic means the greatest of all No matter how big or small Those moments, every minute every second Is what holds us all together Is what brings us comfort Every time we remember So i thank you for the moments Memories and your smile Because thats whats kept us strong all this while Id like to lastly say That every day that i travel further away From when I last saw you, almost a year ago I repeat But I am one step, one year closer to the next time we will meet